How Personal Is “Too Personal” When It Comes To Blogging? | Rants & Rambles

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Rants & Rambles is a weekly feature where I share my own personal thoughts and opinions about both bookish and blogging related topics. As stated, these are MY OWN opinions and while you can choose to disagree with it, I hope that you at least respect it.


This week on Rants & Rambles I want to discuss:

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When I first decided to start my blog, I never had any intentions of making a Twitter. I just wanted to blog for fun, but my sister said that I needed to get my blog out there and that social media would be a helpful tool to increase my views. I was really hesitant about this. I mean, was I just expected to tweet about bookish things all day? Was I only going to talk about books to other bloggers because don’t get me wrong, I love bookish discussions with other bloggers, but I can’t talk about books 24/7. Twitter chats were fun at the beginning, but I quickly lost interest because it was hard just sitting at my laptop for two hours responding to questions. I get distracted quite easily and I always ended up zoning out halfway through the chats. I suck at Internet interactions.

It’s been a few months and I pretty much still suck at Internet interactions. The way I see it is that most of our Twitters are an extension of our blogs and a representation of who we are as bloggers, so how personal should we be getting on our accounts? We want to connect with other bloggers, right? We want others to have some idea of the type of person we are, but how much personal information about ourselves are we expected to divulge in order to make these connections? And I’m not talking personal like someone’s address or age. I’m talking about someone’s life experience, daily lives, goals, maybe even one’s expectations. Information that would help another blogger to decide whether or not they have things in common with you besides books. When it comes to being personal on social media and sharing experiences, it’s not something that comes easy for me. Do you guys know how many times a day I type up a tweet only to delete it before I hit send? A LOT! I do want to make a good impression on others in this community, but it can be so nerve-racking because I don’t want to say the wrong thing.  

The same goes for blogging. I’ve shared past experiences, but they’ve all been related to reading in some way or another. A few weeks ago, I was writing up my review for a book where a character went through a rough time and I had originally wanted to discuss how I could relate to them as I too had been through a similar experience. But I ended up deleting that whole paragraph and rewriting my review because I couldn’t bring myself to share that personal experience. On another note, I’ve been reading reviews for It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover and domestic abuse is a major theme throughout this book and I’ve seen many bloggers discuss their own past experience with relationship abuse and how this book helped them and their reviews were moving and heartbreaking, but I could never bring myself to write a review like theirs. It’s hard putting a piece of yourself out there for total strangers to judge. I don’t want to come off as being impersonal, but at the same time I need boundaries because I’m not comfortable with sharing certain things.

While I may become better at Internet interactions down the road, getting on that personal level where I share my life experiences is something I don’t think I will ever be able to do and I’m okay with that. If it means not being as active as others on social media, I am okay with that. I am okay with just chatting about books and TV shows. Boundaries do not always need to be crossed. Rules do not always need to be broken. Staying within your comfort zones can be a good thing, for me anyways.


This discussion was totally random (and maybe even a little personal), but I’ve been feeling a bit disconnected when it comes to the social aspect of blogging. I’m very much stuck in my own head most of the time and if I’m being honest, actually attempting at being social on social media gives me anxiety. Even though I’m not sharing, doesn’t mean I’m not caring. It’s just harder for some of us than it is for others.

That is all for this week’s Rants & Rambles. I hope you enjoyed my random thoughts!

How comfortable are you with being personal when it comes to blogging?

Let me know in the comments!

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21 thoughts on “How Personal Is “Too Personal” When It Comes To Blogging? | Rants & Rambles

  1. I love this post! I’ve actually contemplated having a small section on my blog where I talk about my life experiences and so on and so forth, but I’m a bit terrified to do so because… well, it’s terrifying to open up. Like you, I’ve also deleted whole paragraphs because I worry I’m giving away “too much of myself”, whatever that means. 😛

    I think I’m quite OK with sharing about myself with bloggers on Twitter, but it has always been through DMs, so not “public” the way a blog post is. I’ve also mentioned my life here and there when I comment on other people’s blog posts and the topic is relevant, though, so I suspect one day I will actually share more of myself on my blog.

    But Ari! I just have to say that I don’t feel like you need to become better at internet interactions (unless you want to be, and “better” is really subjective) – I don’t feel like you don’t care, and I don’t feel like you’re impersonal? I mean, book reviews in itself are kind of personal in that they’re our personal opinions… so yeah. I’m just saying, I don’t think you need to change anything at all. ❤

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    • OMG, REG, YOU ARE TOO KIND TO ME! 😭😭😭😭 I’m really glad that I have made blogger friends who have similar personalities to myself and I’m okay with sharing things here and there. I’m actually more happy that I get drop the ‘professional facade’ and just be more blunt with my words. I tend to go on tangents a lot and luckily no one has gotten annoyed yet.

      I think it’s great that you want to expand your blog and show us the blogger behind the blog. I’m pretty sure that as much as we all love reading, we also have other hobbies and that’s always great to see.

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  2. I think it really depends on the person. Some blog because they need to vent.
    I only post personal things to help others. I never post anything I’m not comfortable with sharing, if that makes sense.

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  3. Great post Ari! I think this is such an important topic because there’s no “right” way to blog or to interact online. Personally, I like to share not personal anecdotes about my life but that’s because that’s how I am all the time. With new friends, with strangers, online, I’m just an open book when it comes to struggles and achievements alike. But not everyone is like that and that’s okay. You have to do what you feel is right for you 😍

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  4. What a fantastic post! It’s hard to find the right balance between sharing too much, and not at all. I like the feeling of being close to other book bloggers and I know that I can find someone to listen to in some of them, but I’ll share info through DM or somewhere more private, and not everythign through twitter or my blog, I guess I’m not too comfortable otherwise 🙂

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    • Thank you so much, Marie! I’m glad that I’ve met a few bloggers that I can share more personal things with and it’s definitely up to the blogger to decide what and how much they want to share. With this being the internet, some of us just aren’t as comfortable sharing certain things about ourselves and that’s okay.

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  5. I don’t think there is such a thing as “too personal” on a blog. Especially if it’s a personal blog. For some people its a way to unwind, destress, and vent so if they choose to do so on their blog they have the right to because it could be therapeutic

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  6. I hate social media. I suck at it and I just don’t have the time or desire to use social media. I also type really really terrible and although my friends and family are so used to it I’m self conscious about it on social media. The few times I do tweet I check and recheck to make sure I typed everything correctly.

    I don’t think you have to be on social media to be a blogger. I’m not and I’m fine with it. And I do like reading personal/non-book related posts on blogs. I feel like I know the person a bit better.

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  7. Love this post!
    I struggle a bit too with balancing books & personal stuff. I think for me it’s less that I don’t want to share things and more that I’m worried that people will get annoyed because they don’t care about my personal life. I fully admit that I’m kind of a jerk and get annoyed if I follow someone because they talk about books and then I realize that half of their posts focus on their personal lives. I think there’s a certain balance that needs to be reached but I also think that balance is hard to achieve. 😛

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  8. This is a great post! I’ve always been terrible at social media as well, I share that whole writing tweets and deleting them instead of posting them a lot experience. It’s nice to see that I’m not alone in struggling with internet interactions. I even struggle with writing comments on others blog post and then a lot of times I don’t know how to respond so it takes me forever. It’s like I don’t want to be rude and not respond, but it’s really hard to think of what to say sometimes. I see so many who are chatty and great at interacting and I’m like “Show me your ways!” 😂. I think with being personal with blogging it should be about what each person is comfortable with sharing. Some people are open books in a way and don’t mind sharing a lot while some of us are more private. 😊

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  9. I’m not super personal when it comes to blogging or social media. I like to be more professional which means not super personal. So I wouldn’t worry about it!

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  10. I definitely get maybe a little too personal on my own twitter, but I’ve always used it as a venting space, so I really only ever feel weird about it if someone happens across my account from certain other places. Like I always feel a little bad if someone who follows my book blog or bookstagram decides to follow me on twitter too. Always a tad worried they’ll realise I’m a little too honest & unfiltered & rough for them & they’ll leave me on every platform. So far so good though!!

    I definitely feel like it’s something that goes on a person by person basis. What’s too personal for one could be nothing at all to another. Though I do feel like maybe not being super specific on certain topics (naming bosses & jobs when ranting online, as an example) is a good thing. I don’t advertise the company I work for and am extremely vague if I feel the need to vent about it or an individual in my life, which helps get the feelings & thoughts out but also protects myself & the people/things involved on the other end of my ramblings.

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  14. WOW WOW WOW this was a thoughtful discussion I didn’t even know I needed in my life! Honestly, I think how personal you get is up to each and every person. I really can’t believe there’s a magic formula out there. Sometimes I enjoy reading about people’s personal life, sometimes I have fun just discovering account all about books. I like both! As for my own account, yeah I mainly stick to books. But you know, I wouldn’t mind expanding into a more personal space either.
    I’m really glad you’ve found what works for you!!

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  15. I think everyone should feel free to post as much or as little about personal things as they feel comfortable doing. I post whatever I fee like, some posts are completely unrelated to bookish topics. I can understand the need to keep personal stories out of your blog, but I can also see adding some in if you feel they will help you or someone else. 🙂 The great thing about blogging is there are no rules, no right/wrong.

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  16. I’ve seemed to get more confident with sharing. I mostly did it for me and to help with my own feelings but I got good responses so it encouraged me to continue. I think it’s important to be honest and real and not sugar coat real situations.

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